I practiced Kung-Fu from ages fourteen to twenty-something. At my first Dojo, we practiced a mix of Kung-Fu and Muai-Thai, which is as badass as a monkey riding a unicorn and playing the violin at the sound of “Total Eclipse of The Heart”.
Now that’s badass.
Anyway, we used to have weekly fights in that Dojo. You heard me. I would go to the center of the room along with a guy quite bulkier than I was, and we would fight. No protection, no shoes. We just put to practice everything we learned.
I tended to be much faster than the guys, but I did get the eventual punch every now and then, or the usual sweep kick. And you know what, this is a pretty good example of what feminism is all about.
You see, being there was my choice. I was being treated equally to the other guys, and to be honest, that was really important to me.
As you may know from this post, I’ve always been a Tomboy. Growing up, I loved “boy” stuff, like martial arts or anime, and I don’t mean the cute animes like Sailor Moon or Sakura; I mean the bloody badassery of Saint Seya and Ruroni Kenshin, yes?
Maybe it’s just me, but I’ve never seen boys as a threat or as oppressors. Maybe it’s because I punched them back when they punched me? Maybe it’s because my best friends are usually guys? I don’t know.
The fact is: I’m a feminist and I love men. There, I’ve said it.
Many men do behave badly, but that doesn’t mean all of them are sexist assholes. Many women think they are though, and that’s why there’s a bunch of ravenous bitches out there confusing a LOT of young girls on what feminism is. So this post is to rectify that.
Feminism is NOT about misandry, people. Misandry (the hate of men by women) sucks monkey balls, even if said monkey can play the violin at the sound of “Total Eclipse of the Heart”.
Feminism is NOT about shit like this:
It is NOT about seeing men as inferior to our female awesomenes (though this one tempted me a bit).
It’s NOT having the right to physically, or emotionally, hurt a man because he can ‘take it’.
It’s NOT about depriving men of rights such as parental leave.
And it’s not about reducing men to Neanderthals whose brains operate solely in their penises.
Feminism is about being treated equally, you know, getting the same pay as our male counterparts, or being asked more than “Who are you wearing?” at the Oscars, or not being overwhelmed with house duties while our men sit on the couch and watch football.
I think “He for She” is a great place to start learning more about feminism and what it means.
I left that Dojo a few months later, by the way, but not because I was put to fight with others. I left because another student got higher evaluations than mine, on the sole ground that some people didn’t want a girl to become the Dojo’s star student.
Now, that’s sexist and slightly misogynist. But it will never give me the right to be a sexist asshole like they were.
Because I’m better than that.